- Balloon (Volley) Ball: Blow up a red balloon. Create a net with a piece of rope across the passage – one or two scarves might be safer. Let the family members stand on different sides of the net. Now have a lovely game of volley ball by trying to hit the balloon over the net. The net should be about as high as the shortest family member. Try not to become too competitive as this might result in tears. Rather have lots of fun and laughter. Not only will you all have some good cardiovascular exercise, but it will help the adults to release a lot of tension, it will help the toddlers to offload some of their energy and it will develop eye-hand coordination as well as team work. It might just also help to whet a good appetite. Have fun!
- Streamer Trial: Create a trail by using a streamer and make it go over, under, around into and out of different pieces of furniture around the house, for example: around the coffee table, then underneath it, over as plastic chair, through a kitchen chair, down the passage, into the bath… Let your imagination lead you, but keep it safe as well as exciting. It’s going to be so much fun if Dad is the leader and the rest of the family members follow him along the trial. After a few trial runs, a toddler of about three years old could try and do the trail themselves. Chances are good they will just copy your efforts. Have running commentary when for example dad is too big to go underneath the kitchen chair. This creates a lot of spatial awareness. The fun might all be so much more worthwhile if you have a lovely picnic afterwards. Just keep it healthy.
- Polystyrene Music: Keep all your polystyrene containers. Wash them and keep them until you have about 15 – 20 different ones. Now put them all upside down on the floor and put some lively rhythmical music on. I love using Ipi Tombi. Everyone must now join in and have a good polystyrene dance by stamping onto the upside down containers – excellent for all that stored up energy as well as for eye foot coordination. It creates a lot of noise as you stamp onto it. When all the containers are smashed, bring along the dustbin and put it in the middle of the floor. Let everyone join in and tear the polystyrene containers into little pieces. This is excellent for hand eye coordination as well as for hand muscle development. All the pieces must go into the dustbin. The keyword should always beFUN.
When we were first pregnant, loads of advice was given. The two that stuck out most to us was:
- Never let your child loose their ‘I CAN’.
- Try to positively guide your child to be good and do the right things instead of always saying “No, don’t do that!”
My husband and I had loads of discussions on how we wanted to raise Millah and somehow those two things stuck like superglue.
Without even making the effort or even realizing consciously what we were doing, we always told her that “Millah CAN put her clothes on, Millah CAN hold her own botty, Millah CAN wash her hair …..”
Does your child throw tantrums? Kick, scream, hit, pinch, push and punch? Are you struggling to manage your child’s behaviour? Unsure how to discipline appropriately? Differences between mom and dad’s views?
In our world it is very important for our children to develop socially and to form friendships. To do this children need to develop social skills: being able to listen to others, to share, care, and learn to communicate in a positive manner. Their behaviour toolbox will need to include: manners, respect, and the ability to learn self control.
This workshop will provide parents with a toolkit that will shape their child’s behaviour in a constructive way – without crushing their spirit.
Presenters: Ilze Biggs (Counselling Psychologist) and Samantha Rump (Counselling Psychologist)
Date: 25th May 2010
Time: 19:00 for 19:30
Venue: Toddlers Workshop, 39 Brewer Rd Summerstrand
Cost: R50 per person
Booking is essential and can be done by phoning Lynette at 0837933320 after hours.
Evergreen Parenting takes joy in offering a variety of services:
- talks and seminars,
- an interactive forum,
- parenting tips and articles as well as
- a wealth of parenting tools to assist you in your role as educator.
For more information go to www.evergreenparenting.co.za
Lynette is an Evergreen Parenting facilitator and is currently running both an Afrikaans and English Evergreen Parenting course. She also has the Evergreen products for sale.
Title: The Involved Dad – the way forward
Location: Toddlers’ Workshop Summerstrand, 39 Brewer Road, Summerstrand
Description: Konrad van Staden (Clinical Psychologist) Tuesday 23 June 19:00 for 19:30/ R50 per person. Snacks included. See article for more details.
Start Time: 19:00
By Konrad van Staden M.A. Clin.Psych (Pretoria)
We live in a world where parenting is receiving so much focus. It seems to be the topic of many talk shows and magazine articles. We even have entire magazines focused solely on parenting. But most of the issues of parenting are focused on the mother-child relationship with little emphasis on the role of the father. Our society puts so little worth on the role of the father, sometimes seeming blind at the expense our children are suffering for absent fathers. The consequence of absent and non-involved fathers carries weighted consequences.
A child born to a family where the father is absent is more likely to be exposed to neglect, physical illness, emotional neglect and abuse. Fathers who are more involved with their children are conversely more likely to be non-violent towards their children and partner.
A recent analysis of child abuse cases in a nationally representative sample of 42 counties found that children from single-parent families are more likely to be victims of physical and sexual abuse than children who live with both biological parents. Compared to their peers living with both parents, children in single parent homes had:
- a 77% greater risk of being physically abused;
- an 87% greater risk of being harmed by physical neglect;
- a 165% greater risk of experiencing notable physical neglect;
- a 74% greater risk of suffering from emotional neglect;
- an 80% greater risk of suffering serious injury as a result of abuse;
- overall, a 120% greater risk of being endangered by some type of child abuse.
Andalene Salvesen, co-presenter of Evergreen Parenting and founder of Monster to Munchkins (the South African super granny), will be in PE on Wednesday 13 May to answer the most common questions parents normally ask.
Andalene is an amazing speaker and has a beautiful sense of humour. Be sure to book for this event through Lynette van Wyk on 0837933320, preferably after 20:00.
The event will take place at the Dutch Reformed Church in 77 Louis Botha Crescent, Summerstrand and will run from 18:30 until 20:00. The cost for the evening will be R50 and only 80 people can be accommodated. Book NOW for this most worthwhile event.